The stockholm codependent approval seeking syndrome. The reason you're an easy prey is because whenever someone attempts a personal attack, you open up more, you try to reach a middle ground, you tell the agressor where it hurts, you try the empathy channel with someone who's not showing signs of empathy. See. Sometimes when someone attacks you they have a reason: they have been hurt, or you may have done something wrong, etc, and dialogue is needed.

However at the first sign of peace, when you drop your weapon and go talk to them to see what it's all about... do they lower their weapons, or fire even more? If you lower your weapon and open your heart—and keep telling them how each bullet hurts so much—they know. They know they're hurting you. You've narrated every shot. Predators escalate when weakness shows. Boundaries matter here.

It's comical like a carrot versus bunnies. There are coping mechanisms for stress. Some share blame and solve problems; others bounce blame outward. You'll see rhetoric, shaming, ad hominem, strawmen, deflections when touching emotional boundaries. Shaming is emotional manipulation to control you, rob your authority, salvage themselves at your expense. Guys AMOG, girls do it too—anyone winning emotionally doesn't care about your pain.

Shaming is emotional manipulation. Adhominen, some specific strawmans, deflections, etc, denial, crazy making... Reframing situations to charge them with emotional content that might hurt you, as an attempt to gain control over you, or to put you in a chain of command that robs you of your own authority, autonomy, self esteem, etc. Emotional manipulation is done by manipulators. Why talk to them like normal people? Protect your core always.